Meet this Week’s JewishMOM: LA’s Caroline Bass

Meet this Week’s JewishMOM: LA’s Caroline Bass

Caroline with her family at her son's upsherin


I am especially excited to be featuring this week’s JewishMOM, since I think that Caroline Bass might be the world’s most long-standing JewishMOM.com reader! I received my first Email from Caroline in 2004, and since then she has been one of my most loyal readers as well as best sources of advice (most importantly, she gave me some really important editing feedback on the manuscript for my second book 6 years ago). Anyway, this a is public thank you to Caroline Bass for all of her help and loyal cyber-friendship over the years…
What is your name? Caroline Sarit Naomi Bass, but I go by Caroline.

Where did you grow up? New York City

Where do you live? Los Angeles

How old are you? 36

How old are your kids? Daniel is 7 and Adam turns 4 in a couple of weeks.

If you are a WM, what do you do? I work for an amazing company that creates brain fitness products for children to use in schools and at home. These products help people read and improve their language skills. We even have centers in Israel using our software. I train teachers on how to use the software and am lucky enough to do this while working from home, so I feel truly blessed with my job.

Caroline and her husband, Doron


How did you meet your husband? I met him while taking classes at UC Berkeley one summer. He had just arrived from Israel after the army, and I had just finished up my year abroad in Israel, so we clicked right away.

What is it like being married to an Israeli? That’s an interesting one to answer. It’s definitely an adventure. My mother is Israeli and we spent many summers in Israel with all my cousins and family as a child, so I speak Hebrew fluently and feel connected to the Israeli culture. But still there is a cultural divide that is hard to cross sometimes. Someone once told me of a support group for “American women who marry Israeli men” and I can understand why there would be a group like that! All in all though I love being married to an Israeli and wouldn’t change a thing.

Outside of mothering, what do you most love to do? I was trained as a doula before my oldest was born and worked as a doula for a while. I really loved that, and I still love the world of birthing, pregnancy, childbirth education and new motherhood. When I have time I continue to offer assistance to new mothers with their nursing questions and newborn baby concerns. I think that if I ever had some more free time I would go back to that and somehow fit that into my life more regularly.

What school/university did you attend? I went to Oberlin College in Ohio and graduated with a degree in psychology and Judaic and Near Eastern Studies.

How do you define yourself hashkafically? I don’t really know where I fit in. I love Torah and teach my kids to love Torah and Ahavat Yisrael, so they are very strong and proud of their Jewish identity and learning. If I had to classify it I guess I would say I am more masorati, traditional, especially since my husband and I have different levels of observance (I am leaning towards being more observant as the years go by), so we try to meet in the middle. Our shul is Chabad and I grew up going to Orthodox synagogues in NY, so that’s where I feel the most comfortable.

In general, we’re taking it one day at a time with adding more levels of observance in our family. It’s a slow process but we are enjoying every minute of it.

Caroline with her sons Daniel and Adam


What’s your favorite part of being a mom? I would say it’s the little things that when you take time to notice that are really the best. I love waking up and seeing their beautiful faces in the morning, I love when they sit with me and tell me all their stories of their day, I love when they ask me all their deep and meaningful questions about life and Torah and I just marvel at where these little beings came from and how blessed I am to be their mother and have them in my life.

What’s the toughest part, for you, of being a mom? I have a hard time with sibling rivalry and staying patient all the time. When my boys get along it’s great, but when they fight I have to work really hard at keeping my patience and trying to help them work it out. I know it’s part of growing up but I really wish I could find a way to eliminate (or at least minimize) sibling rivalry.

What’s the best advice for moms you’ve ever received? In some of your articles you write about stopping what you’re doing when things get tough with the day to day of mothering, and just asking Hashem to help and give you the strength and patience you need to continue. I find that when I do that I become a better mother at that moment no matter what I’m dealing with since it brings Hashem into my life in a very real way, and I am then able to continue much more calmly, and my kids then respond better to me. That advice has helped me get through many trying situations.

How did you hear about JewishMOM.com?
When I was working as a doula I was looking for a way to learn more about how Jewish moms relate to pregnancy and birthing and I found your site.

How long have you been reading JewishMOM.com?
Well, I found an email I wrote to you back in 2004, so at least 7 years, if not longer!

What’s your favorite part of JewishMOM.com? There’s so much to love it’s hard to choose just one thing! So here are my top 3 favorite parts: I love the honesty in your articles, how you talk about parenting in a realistic way, without trying to sugarcoat it or make the edges softer. There are many dimensions to mothering and often times people are afraid to talk about the struggles or doubts or exhaustion, and your articles dive into every aspect of mothering, so I think us mothers around the world can relate and know we’re not alone. I am also always inspired by your newsletters, whether it’s a video that you posted where you share your stories and tidbits of wisdom, or articles that you found interesting that you had to share with us – there is always at least one story (and often times two or three) that leave me feeling inspired and it’s rare to find a site that can do that each time. And lastly, I love being part of a global group of Jewish mothers, all of us going along this amazing journey of motherhood from every corner of the world and coming together on this one site to learn and connect and be inspired. I receive so many emails every day, but your newsletter is the one email I always open and read (or watch or listen to) from beginning to end each time. So thank you!

Meet the previous JewishMOMs of the Week:
Jerusalem’s Yehudit Levy
Seattle’s Sara Gallor
Maaleh Michmas’ Rachael Masri
Baltimore’s Sheva Givre
Hevron’s Leah Hochbaum
London’s Vicki Belovski
Michigan’s Ariella Rubin

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2 comments

  1. Hi Caroline, nice to meet you!

    I hear you about the sibling rivalry! from Cain and Abel, to Itzhak and Ishmael, to Yaacov and Esav, Yosef and his brothers….. you are in good company!!!!

    I read an incredible book called Siblings Without Rivalry, here’s a link to Amazon:

    http://www.amazon.com/Siblings-Without-Rivalry-Children-Together/dp/0380799006

    It’s part of the famous “How to Talk…” series, and this book and their first, Liberated Parents, Liberated Children, MADE ME CRY OUT LOUD!!!!!

    Hope it helps…

    • Caroline Bass

      Yes, you are right, sibling rivalry is as old as the brothers in the Torah… Thanks for the advice about the book, I will definitely check it out!

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