Aviva’s Story: Rabbi Nivin Enabled Me to Love my Life
Over the past three years, Rabbi Aryeh Nivin’s Personal Development Program has helped me IMMENSELY to become a more happy, calm, fulfilled and inspired human being and JewishMOM.
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Excerpted from: The Journey Begins by Shoshana Schwartz, reprinted from Family First
After my third child was born, the doctors said I couldn’t have any more children. Nevertheless, I spent many years trying.
Baruch Hashem, I did, and after more boys I finally had a girl. I was holding my baby, staring into her eyes… and I was struck with how sad I felt.
My confusion wasn’t due to postpartum blues. For years, I’d been working toward this goal. It wasn’t only physical efforts I’d invested; I’d worked on being a better wife and mother, on having more kavanah, on making myself worthy of having more children. And now that I’d finally achieved this goal, I felt sad?
I loved being a stay-at-home mom! Yet it still felt like something was missing,that there was a part of me I wasn’t utilizing.
I turned to Hashem. “I just want to connect to You, to bring what I’m supposed to into this world. But I have no clue what that is!”
A friend introduced me to Reb Aryeh Nivin’s Chaburas. My first reaction was negative. I’d been working on myself for years —I didn’t need help with that! But I tried out one class, and almost immediately, Rabbi Nivin asked, “Do you want to find your unique purpose?” I got chills.
It took me a year to figure out what I thought my unique purpose— my yeud — is. As Rabbi Nivin suggested, in order to discover my life’s purpose, I made list after list of things I enjoyed, things unique to me. But I kept crossing off things that were “too spiritual.”
Because I came from an intellectual family, I viewed nonintellectual pursuits as unworthy. I crossed off dancing, crossed
off reading for entertainment. Stuck on what I “should” enjoy, I couldn’t see what I truly enjoyed.
To let go of societal and familial expectations, I had to unpeel the layers of my real motivations. When I dropped certain chesed activities, my friends were shocked; if I could be involved with these organizations, didn’t that mean I had to?
Actually, no. There are no “shoulds.” I have a unique soul, and I have to create kiddush Hashem in my own way. It’s not necessarily doing this particular chesed, or teaching this Torah class. Once I let go of the shoulds, I started to be real, and to live a life full of vitality.
Today I give teleconferences on various seforim, and yeud workshops. Instead of being locked inside my academic upbringing, in which “being spiritual” was almost an insult, I am living my yeud, helping people connect to G-d.
Aviva teaches, does private coaching, and runs workshops on yeud and the Six Constant Mitzvos.
Learn more about Rabbi Nivin’s Personal Development Chabura and register for his free 3-week trial offer at www.newchabura.com