Explaining Marriage to a 4-Year-Old

Explaining Marriage to a 4-Year-Old


The other day, out of the blue, my 4-year-old Tsofia asked me, “Eema, who am I going to marry?”

“I don’t know, sweety…Who do you want to marry?”

Without hesitation, she responded, “Abba!”

But then, she quickly retracted. “No, I want to marry Eema!”

I smiled.

“First of all, Tsofia, you have to get married to a boy, not a girl. And second of all, you can’t marry a family member.”

Tsofia considered that for a while.

Then she said, “Eema, are you married?”


“Who are you married to?”

“Who do you think?”

Tsofia figured it out…”Abba! But Eema,” Tsofia challenged me with a wise twinkle in her eye…”you couldn’t be married to Abba.”

“Why not?”

“You married a family member!”


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  1. I love it!! Hahaha


  3. This reminds me of the pregnancy details here in Israel they take where they ask if you are related to the child’s father, and I always want to write – yes, he’s my husband!

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