6 Tips for Better Communication with Your Kids and Husband by Sarah Chana Radcliffe
I adore Sarah Chana Radcliffe’s weekly column in Family First magazine. I read it every week and learn so much from her wisdom about improving family relationships. Here’s a gem from this week column: 6 Tips for for Better Communication with Your Kids and Husband.
1. Let your spouse or child speak without interrupting them. Offer steady eye contact.
2. Have your first response be a summary of what the speaker said. Keep your face passive, compassionate, and kind. Keep your voice low.
3. If the speaker has raised a painful issue or difficult situation, show concern before discussing the issue (i.e.,”How are you feeling about this?” or “That sounds really tough”). Before commenting on the issue, ask permission to do so (i.e., “Do you want my advice/thoughts on this?”)
4. If advice or comment is wanted, offer your thoughts humbly: “There may be other ways to look at this, but here is what I’m thinking…”
5. If you have your own reaction—fear, upset, disappointment—don’t share it now. Wait 24 hours and evaluate whether sharing your reaction will be helpful or not.
6. Avoid all correction, criticism, and negative emotion. If you feel upset, you can process this on your own later—privately or with your own support team.
(Originally appeared in Family First Magazine)