One Mother’s Final Wish: Celebrate Sons’ Birthday and Bar Mitzvah Before I Die
The following is a translated excerpt from the article “A Final Celebration, and a Farewell” by Goel Bano (Yediot Achronot, Feb 2, ’15)
Until a year and a half ago, Yamit Karnet from Kfar Baruch led a completely regular life. And then troubles fell upon her family when she was diagnosed with cancer…
In the time that has passed since then, Yamit hasn’t managed to win her battle against the dreaded disease. Today, she is hospitalized in extremely critical condition at Haifa’s Rambam Hospital. She is only receiving treatment to relieve her pain.
Yamit explains,”Unfortunately, the cancer which began in the cervix has spread to the rest of my body. We went a month ago to the Western Wall, the children prayed for my well-being, they put notes into the Wall, and I asked for health so that I can continue to raise them, but that’s not going to happen. This is it. I know that the end is near and I hope that I will suffer as little as possible. I am going to the World which is all good, and I ask myself how I am leaving behind five children and going away. It pains me to think that they will want to talk with Eema, and they won’t have anybody to speak with,” she says with pain.
After the doctors told her that she has, at most, one month more to live, Yamit requested to move up the 6th birthday party of her son, Mikel, by three weeks. The day before yesterday she was brought to his kindergarten and participated in a sad celebration. Lots of balloons, lots of songs, and lots of tears– of joy, emotion, and pain–accompanied the event. Yamit, in a wheelchair, her arm bandaged, was surrounded by her husband, Ofer, and their children– daughter Danielle (13), and sons Ariel (11.5), Gavriel (10), Mikel (6), and Shayel (4), whom she didn’t stop hugging and kissing.
Last Thursday, Yamit made another request to a family friend, “I want to make a bar mitzvah party for Ariel. I know he’s only 11 and a half, but I don’t want to miss the chance to make him happy.”
Within 6 hours kindhearted, generous donors had donated everything for the bar mitzvah–catering, a guest singer, flowers and balloons, clothing, makeup, and a special wig for Yamit.
There was nothing missing, and everything in order to help her see with her own eyes the realization of her final dream.