Pesach Energy-Sapper of the Day: “I Snapped at My Kids. I am a Terrible Mother!”
In this year’s pre-Pesach class, my teacher Rabbi Aryeh Nivin (www.newchabura.com) responded to complaints he has heard from women over the years regarding Passover. I could relate to quite a few of the complaints, and I found Rabbi Nivin’s responses to them really helpful. So, I decided to post a Pesach Energy-Sapper for your reading pleasure every single day until Passover, followed by an answer based on Rabbi Nivin’s response. ENJOY!
Passover Energy-Sapper #2: I CAN NEVER BE ANGRY, SNAPPY, MEAN OR TOUGH WITH MY CHILDREN OR SPOUSE. THAT WOULD MEAN I AM A BAD WIFE AND MOTHER. I CAN’T BE HUMAN DURING THIS EXPERIENCE.
Response: You are a human being.
Expecting yourself to never lose your cool with your family members is unrealistic. If you set your standards too high, you are setting yourself up for failure and unnecessary stress. Being angry, snappy etc. at one point or another is nearly inevitable on this pre-Passover journey we are on.
So don’t expect yourself to be superhuman. If you get angry, that’s OK! It’s normal!
If you do start yelling, then regroup and pull yourself together.
Take a deep breath, put a smile on your face, and get a fresh start.
Chag Kasher v’Sameach!