A Husband and Wife on Rosh Hashana
The following is based on something I heard in a class by Mrs. Miriam Swerdlov:
This Rosh Hashana, your husband can go to an incredible shul where he experiences amazing and uplifting davening and has perfect focus.
But, none of that matters if he comes home and there’s no white tablecloth on the table, and the holiday candles haven’t been lit, and there’s no festive meal to eat.
Without the Jewish woman, no matter how spiritual the husband’s davening is, for that husband there is no Rosh Hashana.
That is just how important the contribution of the Jewish woman is.
So don’t go overboard. Nobody needs 10 desserts or stuffed figs (like I made one year, and nobody ate them. My family is still making fun of me for doing that!)
Just remember to take it easy, and do what you need to do, and keep smiling.
And remember that while it’s very important that your husband is davening the whole day in shul, the one who makes or breaks Rosh Hashana is you.