Things You Should Never Say to Yourself
The following simple yet ingenious advice appears in Laura Doyle’s book Things Will Get as Good as You Can Stand. Words I hope one day to live by!
“Today my rule is not to say anything to myself–even silently–that I wouldn’t say to a friend.
“It sounds simple, but the implications of that rule are much greater than I first realized.
“For instance, since I would never say to a girlfriend, ‘I just hate your skin!’ I won’t say it to myself either.
“I wouldn’t tell her that her house is a disaster, that she didn’t work hard enough, or that she shouldn’t have eaten so much, so I won’t say such critical things to myself anymore either…
“By saving yourself from harsh words, you are protecting your self-esteem and confidence. In short, you are making a commitment to yourself that you are going to feel good and not put yourself in the dumps.”