The Person to Turn to When You’re Feeling Blue by Sara Chana Radcliffe

The Person to Turn to When You’re Feeling Blue by Sara Chana Radcliffe

This Wednesday is the winter solstice, the shortest and darkest day of the year. And that means a lot of us moms are struggling right now with the pre-Chanukah blues. Here’s a nice thought for picking ourselves up when we’re feeling down which I received in my inbox this week from Sara Chana Radcliffe as part of her free Daily Parenting Posts.

When your mood drops for no known reason, the best help you can give yourself is a generous dose of compassion.

Talk to your mood directly (silently, unless you want to raise eyebrows around you…).

“You’re having a rough time. It’s okay. Sometimes we just feel low. Take it easy for awhile. I’ll bring you some tea.”

It’s amazing how beneficial some TLC is even when YOU are the one giving it to yourself!

And on the flip side, berating yourself for not feeling happy is one of the most unhelpful things you can do, as it lowers your mood even more.

“Treat yourself the way you wish someone else would treat you.”

Be the friend you really need.

Sarah Chana Radcliffe, psychologist and author of “Raise Your Kids without Raising Your Voice,” “The Fear Fix,” and “Make Yourself at Home.” She is a weekly columnist for Mishpacha Magazine’s “Family First” section and she lectures locally and internationally on subjects relating to parenting, marriage and personal well-being. She is the creator of “Daily Parenting Posts”

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4 comments

  1. Thank you for introducing me to her posts — now I’m a subscriber there too!

  2. Doesn’t always help when what you need is to be taken care, when you NEED someone else to”on” once in a while.
    Sometimes what helps is to acknowledge all the stuff i did accomplish, “mitzvah notes” if you will.
    Oh my gosh, i had a friend when my big kids were tiny, and we leaned on each other! At least where the kids were concerned! What a brocha good friends can be!

  3. That is INCREDIBLE!!!! sometimes I have these really weird lows that I don’t know where they came from or why, bad thoughts etc….. this is such great advice for those times!! I usually try to make myself go and do something useful or productive but this is really important advice.

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