53 and Single, No Longer

53 and Single, No Longer

Two weeks ago, I was in Denmark on vacation when my phone pinged with a text message from Jerusalem. It was from my friend and neighbor, Talia: “I am excited to share that the prayers have been answered, and the man whom my heart has selected has found me!”

Right then and there, in distant Denmark, I got goosebumps all over.

Talia and I have attended a class together for the last year and a half. Week by week, Talia has impressed me as an incredibly lovely person, kindhearted, beautiful, spiritual, devoted to friends and family. Every time I see her, and remember how much she suffers as an older single, I feel disbelief that some smart man hasn’t yet chosen her to be his wife.

And now, b”H, one smart man, the right man, has.

Here is Talia’s incredible story (translated from the original Hebrew):

Last month, I celebrated my 53rd birthday.

Though it’s hard to say I celebrated it, because reaching this age, still single, is far from easy.

Over the past 33 years of dating, I’ve met with innumerable men. More than a few times over the years, I believed I’d found Mr. Right, but in the end things didn’t work out and I returned, time and time again, to my life of loneliness. This was especially difficult on Shabbat, on holidays, and during weddings and other joyous occasions.

About two months ago, a matchmaker told me about a man who sounded good on paper. I arrived at the date, yet again hopeful that this time it would be the right person, and I could finally set up my home with him.

But I quickly realized that this date was not my salvation. He was very critical and throughout the date he insulted me and was hurtful regarding issues about which I’m particularly sensitive.

At one point during the meeting, my date turned to me and said: “I remember your picture from such-and-such a dating site.”

I was very embarrassed because I remembered that a friend had registered me on this certain this site two years before, but I did not know that my picture and my name were still circulating around the site.

At the end of that date, this fellow said to me: “You’re a very disabled person, it’s really too bad you continue dating!”

I left that date crying my eyes out. I turned to the Master of the Universe and said to Him, “I cannot take anymore. If you want me to get married, please send me my husband!”

The next day, I was in touch with the friend who had registered me for that dating site, and asked her to delete my personal details from the site.

But, for some reason, that friend took a while, and it took her a week and 2 days before she logged in.

But the day she logged in to erase my name, she saw I had been contacted by someone who had seen my profile that very day.

My friend looked over this man’s details, and it seemed to her that he could be a match for me. She requested from me to make one more small effort and agree to meet with one more person.

That same day this man called me, and that evening we met at the same cafe where I had met with the insulting and offensive date just a few days before.

It did not take long for me to realize that this person was very different from the men I had met up until then. I found him respectful and pleasant, and just a half an hour into our first date, he said, “You will be my wife this year, in 5778!”

I thought he was delirious. 5778 would be over in less than 3 months!

But it turned out he was right and I was wrong. Mr. Right, to be exact.

Now we are preparing for our wedding that will take place a few days before Rosh Hashana.

Praise G-d for his goodness, and for his neverending lovingkindness.

PLEASE LEAVE YOUR MAZAL TOVS IN THE COMMENTS BELOW. PLEASE WRITE WHERE YOU ARE FROM, SO TALIA WILL KNOW PEOPLE AROUND THE WORLD ARE SHARING IN HER JOY:)

35 comments

  1. Aya Amurjuev

    What a beautiful story! Mazal Tov Talia, wishing you all the happiness in the world 🙂

    • Emese Oseni

      B’H,
      I cannot believe how similar my story is to yours. For me, my first husband died of lung cancer in 2007. I waited 1 1/2 years before considering dating. My friend encouraged me to sign up for online dating and meeting after meeting men who were offensive and downright mean, I said to my friend that I’m canceling my dating site account. She begged me to wait another month and then she said, if nothing comes along, she and I will cancel my account together. Well, the 3rd week a very nice tall gentleman came along and we started a conversation online. We met up at a cafe and we’ve been together ever since. We started dating in 2009 and were married in 2011. We just celebrated our 7th wedding anniversary.

      Mazel Tov Talia to you both. Wishing you both a lifetime of happiness and excellent health. We both know that Hashem knows best who is the right person for both of us.

  2. B’H so so so happy for you both! Massive Mazal tov! May you both build a bayit ne’eman b’Yisrael!
    Sarah – London

  3. Wow I’m in tears. What a special person Talia must be: Hashem won’t put just anyone through all this. So very excited for this couple!

  4. Roberta Carasso

    Talia,

    Mazel Tov to you and your future husband. Hashem answered you just when the man was ready to appear in your life. May you have a life filled with Brachos, Joy, Love, and years of Happiness that will erase your years of being single.

  5. Mazel tov from St. Louis Missouri

  6. Mazel Tov! I am so happy for you! May you together build a Bayis Ne’eman BeYisrael, an enduring and shining edifice, and bring nachas to yourselves, your loved ones, and the entire Jewish nation!
    Dina (New York)

  7. Mazel Tov Talia, sending best wishes from Texas.

  8. Mazel Tov Talia – this is such a beautiful story! I love how you told Hashem you are done dating and He should please send you your husband. That must’ve been a prayer straight up to Him.
    Mazel Tov from Rhode Island

  9. Mazal Tov!! Talia, may you have happiness always and a life full of brachos as you build your Bayis Ne’Eman B’Yisrael with your bashert!!I’m so happy for you and your story gives hope to others who are seeking.

  10. Mazal tov to you both. B’sha’a tova umutzlachat, even though we can’t understand why it took so long.

  11. Mazal tov talia!! From Argentina

  12. Debra Alvo

    So much Mazel to you and your bachert!
    HaShem has heard you clearly this time!
    May you both have so much joy and grow together, supporting eachother always.
    Thrilled for you!
    Debra in NYC, 🇺🇸

  13. Michal Y Boyars

    MAZAL TOV!!! What strength you have. Wishing you and your soon to be husband much joy!!
    Michal – Washington, DC

  14. Mazel Tov and Best Wishes from Brooklyn, N.Y.

  15. MAZal tov, Talia!! Sending you much brocha and wishes for continued light in your life.
    Thanks, Chana Jenny, for sharing this simcha. Tears for the pain and joy….from New York

  16. Naomi Elbinger

    A big Mazal tov from Ramat Beit Shemesh. I would love to meet you some day!

  17. Wow we feel so happy for you! BH! May you be so happy together, have a loving warm happy home full of joy, Torah and mitzvos!
    Love from M in baltimore

  18. Huge Mazal Tov from New York
    What amazing hasgacha pratis
    May you have a long and happy life together filled with bracha

  19. Mazel Tov from Wisconsin! Hashem bless you and your house!

  20. MAZAL TOV to you both!!!
    Posted this on Fb to give others hope.

    Sarah

  21. Mazal Tov and Baruch Hashem!
    Wishing you many celebrations to come!

  22. Wow!!! Mazel tov from Baltimore

  23. Elisheva Klein

    With tears in my eyes and a lump in my throat I wish Talia MAZAL TOV and only Blessing from now on. Warmly, from Toronto

  24. you are an inspiration!!! Mazel Tov to you and may you have a lifetime of happiness…
    Shira from Pennsylvania, USA

  25. Hadassah Aber

    Mazal tov! So inspirational- we can never give up hope! Hashem has the master plan. Cleveland Ohio (just moved from North Miami Beach)

  26. Mazel tov!! May you build a bayit neeman biYisroel together in good health and happiness. Best wishes from Connecticut

  27. Mazal tov! I was so touched by your story. Best wishes from Baltimore, MD

  28. Mazel tov!! From Staten Island NY

  29. Mazel tov Talia! Thank you for sharing your moving story and bringing hope to many people! Shira- Columbus, Ohio

  30. Mazal tova Talia from Italy!!!
    I wish my sisters and brother to find there basherts too!!
    Pray for dina lea bat cochava,
    Odelia bat cochava,
    menachem mendel hillel moshe ben cochava!
    please please they also should be happily married by the end of the year!!! amen

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