The Real Story Behind Rabbi Yuval and Noa Yaron Dayan’s Divorce (1-Minute Video)

The Real Story Behind Rabbi Yuval and Noa Yaron Dayan’s Divorce (1-Minute Video)

This past May, when my daughter and I visited Uman, we were surprised to discover that Noa Yaron Dayan was there as well, leading a group. Noa was a secular TV celebrity until she and her husband, Rabbi Yuval Dayan, became religious, and ended up inspiring and uplifting the lives of thousands of Israelis over the past two decades.
So, of course, I wanted to approach Noa and tell her how much I loved her books about the lives of baalei teshuva, and how awesome I think she is for always being so real, telling it like it is. But by the time I summoned up the nerve to approach her, I realized she and her group had gone.
And then, a few weeks later, I and all of Israel, heard the terrible news. Noa’s husband, Rabbi Yuval Dayan, was no longer religious, and he and Noa, the parents of 7 children, had gotten divorced.
What a tragedy!
What happened?
And now, since last month, hundreds of thousands of Israelis (including me) have been checking in each week to watch the show Yes Man, in which Yuval and Noa present the personal story behind the divorce that rocked Israel.
Yes Man is a reality show documenting what happens when the show’s participants agree to face their deepest fears. In their case, Noa and Yuval agree to publicly discuss their divorce in front of a live audience made up of their fans and students.
After watching this heartbreaking excerpt from that event, I want nothing more than to send the gorgeous, awe-inspiring, grieving Noa Yaron Dayan a huge, world-wide JewishMOM hug.

18 comments

  1. i think couples who expose themselves too much and who are always outside their homes are in great danger. instead of going to uman women should take care of their shlom bayit and of their husbands and kids. i never liked yuval dayan hes an opportunist and needs a good therapist and help from above if he wants to receive it

  2. Wow, Hashem should bless this woman and her kids. We need the Geula.

  3. Very powerful, thanks for sending. Are all her books in Hebrew only?

  4. Ahh, I’d love to see this and read her work, but as I saw, it’s not in English. Can you link to the TV show? Thanks!

    • the show is only in Hebrew, it’s about a bunch of different people, not just them. you can find it on youtube if you search for יס מן (yes man). I’m reluctant to put a direct link, since not all the stories are jewishmom.com-appropriate material

  5. I only got 50 seconds, is that all there is?

    • there’s a lot more, but all in hebrew (but with Hebrew subtitles, so it’s a bit easier). go to youtube and search for יס מן (yes man). there are 5 episodes so far there

  6. the horban is that they speak in public about their most intimate liife. its very commercial they certainly need money and the public is greedy for such stories. Poor 7 kids

  7. Happy to hear that I am not the only one intrigued by this story. It is very painful to see but I actually think it is important for Balei Teshuva to learn from their mistakes. Jenny you have always encouraged a date night… and I being goal oriented thought it wasn’t so crucial. Your words are only ringing clearer now. How much we need to work on building our marriage, and spiritual growth, and connection with mentors. Thank you for continuing your holy work!

  8. Going through a divorce is hard. and nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors. Yes you may need therapy and or a Rav but people will still not get the whys? Children whole other issue. As she says no schehina no shalom bayis even children get that feeling

  9. Dear Chana, Can you at least give us a summary in English of what caused this terrible divorce? Why did Yuval give up Torah observance? Couldn’t they have stayed married in any case? Please write an article summarizing what they said in your own words.

    With appreciation for all your great work,
    Sara Yoheved Rigler

    • Yuval says that he stopped being religious because his questions were bigger than his answers. That he was living in a constant state of self-criticism, never at peace, never feeling good enough. As a fellow rabbi nivin student, you will know what I mean when I say that he was living in a way that was extremely unauthentic. He went from being extremely secular to being extremely religious, and competely rejected everything about his old life.
      And this extreme, unauthentic transformation caused him (as Rabbi nivin always says) to become depressed and miserable. And, eventually, to simply crashing and leaving everything behind–the religion and his wife.
      Though I don’t think that the divorce was necessarily just because he stopped being religious. Most or maybe all of their children (it appears) look religious anymore. I think that Noa would have stuck with her husband (as she’s remained extremely devoted to her children) even if he wasn’t religious.

      Yuval says that what destroyed his marriage was that he and Noa cared so much about their mission of spreading Rebbe Nachman’s torah etc, and they would spend hours and hours working together on their projects. But they (he claims, and noa didn’t disagree) didn’t invest at all in זוגיות, in their life as a couple, romance, time having fun together. In short, they needed Kesher Wife!!!

      • Wow thank you so much for adding these details. It is such an important lesson, to be authentic, to not leave your “lower soul” behind when you get so into the spiritual. I feel there is a real need to talk about this more and I’m so grateful Rabbi Nivin does. Everyone should do his habura 🙂

      • Thank you for the explanation–and the reminder to be authentic. Such an important point! And continually working on one’s marriage is an equally important lesson. The main motto of our Kesher Wife webinar [https://sararigler.com/workshops/the-kesher-wife-webinar/] is: “My marriage is the most important thing in my life.”

  10. Sorry to hear – what happened? I guess all that glitters is certainly not gold. What do we know.? Curious if us English illiterate Hebrew wannabes can learn from this incident. Anything more to say? A matter of one opped out for a secular lifestyle? Surely there must b more to this story. Care to enlighten? Not Gd Forbid for gossiping sake but something we all can learn from? Thanks,🤔

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