Mommy Peptalk: How to Stop Misbehavior


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A simple and highly effective tool to eliminate child misbehavior from Mrs. Dina Friedman of the Chanoch l’Naar parenting course.


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  1. Wow. Thank you for sharing this beautiful insight. This is a challenge I have been dealing with with my kids a lately. I intend to put this new method and awareness to work this week in our home.

  2. Mrs Belogski

    That story is really sad! We had twins when the next child up was 17 months and once she realised they were staying she reacted quite badly. We used to ask, “who does mummy love?” and she wouldn’t say her name, but everyone else’s name. It took a lot of “lovebombing” till she replied, as my other kids do, with her name first, then the other children. I haven’t tried massage – not sure how my kids would react- but i always try for an affectionate touch when i go past them and hugs on tap. Will try massage and message and see what happens

  3. Thank you for putting this idea at the front of my mind: I just used this technique today because of it! I was walking home from the dentist with a 7 year old with 2 new fillings. He was still quite shaken. I told him that I had an idea that will help all of the tension and upset leave his body, and I did the massage you described. Each time I did it, he said he felt a little better!

  4. A wonderful double dose to nuture two of our most basic human needs! The absolute primal need for physical connection and loving touch coupled with the deep emotional need for approval, self-esteem building, and positive reinforcement.
    Love it!

  5. What a lovely idea! This is great! I’m sure my toddler will appreciate this. Yay!

  6. Nice to hear about the massage. I just heard that different children like different kind of hugs. I suggest that you ask you child if he likes it stonger or soft,the way you do it. With my 10 year old I started to give him a “stong hug” every day, his behavior got better and he tels me he feels better! Nice way to (re)connect to our children.

  7. As a massage therapist (who specializes in prenatal massage and infant massage) as well as a mother of children with hypo and hyper sensitivities to touch, I am glad to see this being brought up in a Jewish context of giving. Our skin is our biggest organ and huge receptor of outside information, and we underestimate its profound importance in the effect it has on our equilibrium. People may have heard of the famous studies done by Tiffany Fields in the area of touch research when it comes to newborns and their increased weight gain and sleep, and overall condition when it comes to massage, but did you know that massage is equally important in lowering the stress of the giver? They did studies with a lonely geriatric population and saw amazing results when they were provided the opportunity to massage neonates, and there was mutual benefit in the health of both populations — young and old!! Kol Hakavod bringing to light the importance of touch to the Jewish Community!!!

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