The 33-Year Old Bride’s Secret to Happiness

The 33-Year Old Bride’s Secret to Happiness

(You have a choice: you can read this post or hear me tell the same story in the 2-minute video below)

Over the last 8 years, my whole family has become extremely fond of our dental hygienist, Sara.

And over the years, twice a year, we’ve seen this lovely, sweet-hearted woman getting older and older. 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32…and not getting married.

And then today, at my appointment, Sara turned to me and said, “Chana, I have great news! I am getting married this summer!”

Here is the incredible story she told me:

“I am 33 and my fiance is 38, my friend’s husband set us up.

“Someone who heard I got engaged told me, ‘You are proof that we should never despair!’ but the truth is that I couldn’t understand what she was talking about…

“I never felt despair, or worry. I dated for 13 years, and I met a lot of good people along the way. And I was very busy, with my work and with my family. And I was happy.

“Why would I worry? I was raised in a home like that…where we believe that everything G-d does is good. And in the end, I met my husband, b”H!

“My fiance, on the other hand, has told me how much he suffered for all those years of dating. He desperately wanted to get married, and was afraid that he would be alone for the rest of his life.”

On my way out, I gave Sara a big hug and blessed her with the words I’ve been waiting 8 years to say to her: “Mazal tov!”

And I was blown away by the simple but life-altering message of Sara’s story…

He worried and suffered. She didn’t worry and was happy.

And in the end, both of them ended up at the same blessed destination: their chuppah.

I do worry. About this and that.

But what’s the point?

Why not choose to be happy on the way to wherever life takes me?

Like Sara, the happy single turned happy bride, b”H!


  1. Beautiful beautiful message❤

  2. As a very wise woman told me – Don’t worry – just let Hashem run the show. He’s doing it anyway.

  3. Love the new format. I love your writing and I love seeing and hearing you.
    Mazal tov to Sara! I love hearing good news. How unusual and uplifting to hear about someone really living without worry and just embracing life, without the struggle of reality not meetings our expectations. My good friend likes to quote her wise mother in law, “Let go and let Gd.” Easier said than done. Can Sara give us shiur??

  4. Thank you! I will be rereading and rereading this.

    Big huge mazal tov to Sara!

  5. Tomorrow is a wedding for a 46 year old, first marriage. I can’t imagine the pain she felt all these years. Baruch Hashem she’s getting married! Simchas!

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